Hakomi Somatic Psychotherapy is unique! It offers you a way to heal and change deep feelings and beliefs that trouble your life.
Hakomi was developed in the humanitarian tradition and believes our main task is to understand ourselves, and that the therapist’s task is to assist you in that – by creating ways in which you may discover yourself. This is in contrast to many therapies that follow a medical or academic psychology model, leading to analysis, labelling, excessive discussion, and sometimes arguments.
‘Hakomi’ is a Native American Hopi word = ‘How do you stand in relation to these many realms?’ (or more colloquially, ‘How are you?’) reflecting the method’s emphasis on self study.
In therapy, Hakomi helps you study how you organise your experience – how you see the world, and what beliefs you hold about yourself, which serve you no longer. From here, you can open out your self, growing to a greater understanding and acceptance, giving you greater choice about how to live your life.
To do this, the therapist helps you establish and use a self-reflective state of consciousness called mindfulness. Mindfulness involves a surrender to, and acceptance of, what is happening in each moment; a gentle, sustained focus of inward attention; a heightened sensitivity and the ability to observe and name the contents of consciousness.
As a method of psychotherapy, Hakomi is based on the quality of relationship between therapist and you. Hakomi is first a container, full of compassion, patience and encouragement. By going slowly, and gently protecting the spirit, the therapist creates an atmosphere of safety with you, where defences can be willingly examined and yielded, rather than confronted or overpowered. With such cooperation, powerful learning and change become possible.
In Hakomi, you explore your experience with the therapist within a relationship filled with good will and kindness. The atmosphere is open, creative and full of hope. This atmosphere is the most significant aspect of the whole endeavour. It sustains both you and the therapist through the difficult work of feeling what at times can be deeply painful.